The quality of connection

It is Christmas Day and – in Finland – we spend it at home thinking about the purpose of life or other important issues. In order to be in line I ponder about the quality of connection. We always speak about quantities, numbers of followers and so on and external factors of courses. There is a lot of conversation about open courses going on. Dave has made some nice videos to illustrate the difference between formal and open courses. I believe those help some people but…

What is the real question of a learner at the beginning of the studies. The learner wants to be accepted, be seen, be heard and find real connections to other people. It is difficult in massive open courses but it can happen inside formal curriculum. I have much experience about creating the atmosphere such that authentic learning becomes possible.

Developmental psychology has always known the meaning of basic trust, the enormous power of it through the life. We all know how difficult it is to live a happy life nowadays in spite of material richness. We try to be perfect, we numb emotions and only perform cognitively. We want easy and quick answers to questions which cannot be answered or solved. We have to hide our feelings of shame and fear if we want to be accepted. The quality of human connection has turned to opposite, it is continuous disconnection. I have a lot of experiences about lonely studying in open course.

We need some people to tell us how we have distorted everything. We believe in TEDX Talk, so let us listen to Brene Brown.

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  3. Something is happening here when Jenny and John have referred twice to this blog post. Here is the last one
    I don’t know why I like this TED talk so much, it touches me and re-tells me something I have always known and what I want to remember. What is it? Basics of humanity?
    I see social connections as necessary presuppositions of human development, it is not a choice. It is interesting that Jenny sees the lecture in a different way but he wanted to listen to it anyway. What is this? Some day I , perhaps, understand…

  4. Thanks for re-posting this in the context of rhizo14. I watched the video once and will do again. I agree it’s about the quality of connection. The video raised 2 questions for me:
    Is basic trust somehow more vulnerable online?
    How can we mend connections/ make fresh starts?

    • Is basic trust somehow more vulnerable online?
      There are people who come into internet life because they haven’t warm emotions in so called real life, and they are very vulnerable. For instance one of the school killers in Finland had been rejected of a popular girl in some online tribe and it may be one reason for his shooting. At school he had no human relations but online he had this wonderful experience.
      It is easy to become misunderstood online and we seldom ask what you mean? questions.

      How can we mend connections/make fresh starts?
      To speak clearly, to be fair /sincere – to be worth trusting. Easy to say but…

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